Trans people have been around your whole life. You’ve been sharing bathrooms with them your whole life. They’ve been in your communities your whole life. They’ve even been playing sport your whole life.

And you didn’t care *at all* till a few years ago when every right wing org decided you should

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Oh my god, this! I tell my cis-women friends exactly that and they reply "but I don't want to see a penis in the changing room". It doesn't matter they haven't seen one in their whole life.
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In my first ever office job (mostly corporate cishet money men), nearly 2 decades ago, someone came out and started transitioning while I worked there. She took a few weeks off, we all had a small trans awareness training session, then she came back... and nobody cared or made a drama.
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It was the first time I or many of the people I worked with had ever met a trans person, and everyone was basically like "oh ok, we call her X and she's a she now, cool". Insane to think how far backwards we've gone since then. Hope she's doing ok out there wherever she is.
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This idea of 'sharing bathrooms' with trans people suggests that we all collectively squat over a pit to do our business. There is such a thing as cubicles!!!! I have been in women's changing rooms all my life. Most people get changed v quickly and hidden by a towel. No one is flaunting their vag.
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And there is the irony of the transphobe-in-chief´s visits to beauty pageant changing rooms in order to "ins-pect" the "beautiful women"🤮...
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The kindest sales reps I’ve ever met, was trans. She was very sweet- unlike some of the gay male reps who belittled me for not knowing how to contour makeup. It was probably 15yrs ago, and I still think about her and how she made me feel more comfortable. She can use my personal bathroom anytime. 🏳️‍⚧️
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Exactly.
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It’s Anita Bryant all over again.

Some batshit crazy religious right-wing nut realises gay people (and now trans people) exist, gets a bunch of their fellow travellers in a froth and, even though right-wingers are the minority in society, the rest of us spend 40 years correcting their crap.
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Well past time to abolish conservatism.
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Absolutely. And in a couple of decades, a lot of very nice liberals with "legitimate concerns" about sport & toilets are going to sit down & read a trans Letter To Mama in a book about the UK/US in the 2020s, & wonder how people could ever have been so cruel...

They'll have always been against this
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I'm sensing another #AbbeyTheatre statement tour de force is just about due.

Please 🙏👌💐
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In deep honesty and solidarity: there was a time around 2000 when I was familiar with gay and lesbian friends but encountering trans people hit a lot of gut-level unfamiliarity buttons. What I did was lkok inward and grow up and learn stuff and treat my gut as the place where all the shit goes.
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I was the same the first time I met an out gay man (who was rather camp). I was uncomfortable, especially when he gently flirted with me. I realised very quickly that it was very much a ME problem (causes in part by societal expectations), and not anyone else’s. I got over myself after that.
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I don't care who I'm sharing the bathroom with; I'm in there to pee.

They're in there to pee.

I'm concerned with not getting it on my shoes, washing my hands and making sure I don't have a boog in the mirror check on the way out.

That's it.

Anyone with an IQ over 70 should feel the same.
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"Trans people have been around your whole life" AND YOU DIDN'T KNOW.
They didn't care, it wasn't a topic of discussion, like they didn't exist and we just invented them.
I've been lucky to be exposed to a rich variety of people as a kid, all their lives mattered, with their differences and struggles
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Also none of these people cared about womens sport either
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I do care. For their rights not to be taken away.
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Absolutely👏 this is dictated behaviour and it comes from the far-right
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Your average person really doesn't make a big deal about trans people. It is just those in government positions and the weird vocal minority that do because they have nothing better to do in life
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Exactly. And that pivot happened right after they lost their fight against gay marriage.

They don’t care about trans people or gay marriages.

They care about having a wedge that will scare enough bigots into handing them power so they can rob us all.
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and their first attempt (bathroom bills) was a flop so they pivoted to trans women playing sports and found the right wedge
Gavin Newsom admitted outright that the sports issue made him reconsider, meaning he got duped in exactly the way his opposition wanted
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I thought it kicked off when self-id became a cause
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And this bad seed Rowling,she became all the worst characters of her writing...
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So true.
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I still don't care at all. I only care that their rights are now being violated. One of the youtubers I really enjoyed watching was trans before I followed her and I could see from old content how much happier she was after transitioning.
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I was far more uncomfortable in the women's room than anyone has been beside me in the men's. The end goal is "trans people stay home" but idgaf, they start making it illegal for me to piss in the men's, I'll piss in the ladies, beard and all.
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This is going through my head in terms of widespread resistance to segregation.
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(And a bunch of liberal journalists and pols decided to go along with it)
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Tbh I still don't care. Let them be
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Don't pee on the seat, wash your fucking hands and keep your eyes and hands to yourself (unless you're a drunk girlie, then make friends with everyone as well).
If they spent half the energy on actual social justice issues instead of the latest RW moral panic, they could move fucking mountains...
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Can recommend Deborah Francis White's most recent book- 'Six Conversations We're Afraid to Have'
There's a chapter on the 'Trans' conversation, what's behind it, and how to discuss it.
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You're right, and that reflects badly on me. In my defense the relative lack of visibilty and representation meant that I simply wasn't aware of the issue. Now I do care, deeply, that the right wing have decided that trans people are a legitimate target, and oppose that persecution. Trans rights!
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