It's not about the blowjob.

The blowjob is the means to an end, and that end is violent domination.

This sort of sexual misconduct isn't about the sexual act itself.

They get off on the subjugation and humiliation of the victim.

It's not a burden to them. It's an achievement

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Yeah, that question isn't too far from "was she really hot enough to rape?" Sexual violence is in a different category from consensual sex and it's really unhelpful to conflate them.
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It's always about power and control, not looks. They want you to feel small and helpless. Somehow people still act like clothing makes a difference. 🙄 It's never about her clothes or looks, just power over her.
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It's a game.

Every single sexual assault I have experienced, it wasn't about the guy getting off.

It was about him proving he could do something to my body.

The more it looks like you're going to cry, the more it seems like they've wrecked you... The bigger they smile.
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Exactly this: proof of power. It's no different than trump getting his cabinet to look like fools in too-big shoes.
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It's not about passion.

It's about cruelty, impunity, and power.

Their ability to humiliate and traumatize and sometimes ruin us without consequence is proof to them of their power.

That's the thrill they seek with this shit, physical gratification is incidental.
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Yes. That’s it entirely. People get shit for saying ‘it isn’t about sex, it’s about power’. But, folks, no matter how much it’s about sex, it’s exponentially more about power.
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Imagine the world we would be in if the guy coercing office blowies and then perjured himself over it, had been held accountable
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Sexual assault is Assault, not Sex.

Disabled and unhoused women face greatly increased rates of assault, and it's not because rapists all have specific kinks. It's because those people are easier to exert power over
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THIS!!
Women in vulnerable situations, are more likely to be sexually abused and raped.
All due to the perpetrators being the predators they are.
They take advantage of the circumstances, knowing that their victims will be more afraid and not believed.
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