I feel like UUs may be up your alley if they don’t count as Christians for you. Or the Sikhs; they seem to be nice people what with the “all houses of worship are required to maintain a vegan soup kitchen“ deal

quakerism!

telling someone who doesn't feel safe with christianity to look for the nice churches isn't the serve you think it is

Unitarian Universalists!

I am very much not converting to judaism as I have limited connection to the community and it doesn't feel any less colonial to me really

I’d go with Reconstruction over Reform but they’re not as widespread iirc

unfortunately both not a thing in my country and also a church that gives me bad vibes due to a lot of them thinking all worship of any god is worship of the Christian God

Seconding UU, I know a number of trans folks who’ve found family in a UU congregation

It really depends on the UU congregation. The UU church I went to for years was lovely and working class. Then I moved and the new UU church was more moneyed/cringe/judgy/into performative virtue signaling. I really wanted to like them but left after a few months of feeling I was unwelcome.

Genuine recommendation: when I was in college I knew a religious trans woman who didn't go to her church (because it made her feel unsafe) but who connected with other trans women of faith online to talk about their faith together and have regular meetings. There should be more spaces for that.

the Quakers, honestly.

probably a lot of Unitarians too, I'm guessing

thank you i've bookmarked a quaker map on the advice of someone else and I'll look into stuff after I have my iron infusion in a few weeks

Wicca and I'm not even joking

I got baptised by a lesbian in the Uniting Church of Australia and one of the elders in my mum's congregation is trans so it's worth checking out. But it's a congregation by congregation question.