Single monogamous men who consistently disparage polyamory or open relationships, I have an honest question.

For someone so vocal about the moral or social superiority of monogamous relationships, why aren’t you in one?

April 08, 2026 - 20:58 UTC

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It is so extremely tiring isn't it?
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Me thinks self reflection should be the first relationship they figure out.
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And are any of the reasons for your lack of a partner the responsibility/fault of anyone in a non traditional relationship? If so, please explain how the absence of these non traditional relationship structures would provide you a partner.

Illustrations or data point graphs are highly encouraged!
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From what I’ve seen: The train of thought is “everyone I talk to is an in open relationship and I don’t want sex, I want a husband!”

They then compound that frustration by turning it into a moral issue about promiscuity and STDs (I haven’t been rejected, in fact I am BETTER than you!!)
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Instead of seeing it as a skill issue, it becomes a slippery slope into either being very annoying online or potentially becoming a self-important “gay not queer” fuckhead
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I blame social media. It makes people feel trapped, overwhelmed, bombards with constant emotional threat of comparison to others, and gives them easy targets for frustration (despite the fact there's data to show the majority of relationships are still monogamous, traditional couplings)
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That’s definitely included in the mix of reasons. I also believe the average person is also very uncomfortable with introspection, and honest self reflection. It’s easy to project, and it’s tiresome coming from a community of people that should know better.
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